Recently a friend told me she is in love. Like, butterflies in her stomach, day-dreamy, all consuming love.
Enjoy it while it lasts.
Woah. . . was that actually my first thought? Did I really respond that way?
Yes, yes I did. And you know what? I don’t think it was wrong.
It doesn’t last. I can’t tell you the last time I got butterflies in my stomach when I looked at Ryan and his palms haven’t gotten sweaty holding my hand in years. We’re past that. The passion we experienced when dating and as newlyweds is a shadow of what it once was. Yes, it’s still there keeping things fun but it’s being replaced by something else.
It reveals who we truly are, who the other truly is. It shows us that we can impact this world and the people closest to us. It whispers to us that we are good parents and we can raise excellent children. It demands that we give our everything for the other.
This is the heart of love. This love is where rubber meets the road. This is where a worthwhile marriage is fought for and earned.
We’ve learned a lot in our six years of marriage. Mostly we’re learning how to become one. Each challenge, each triumph knits our souls together in ways I didn’t fully expect when I made my vows. It’s beautiful. Hard, but beautiful.
Love begins with an emotional high. And it’s wonderful. A married friend responded to my love-struck friend this way: ‘Soak it all in. Falling in love is a glorious experience’. I couldn’t agree more. It’s a special time that does come to an end. But that’s when the good stuff begins.
What does being ‘in love’ look like for you? Has it changed? How do you feel about the changes?